Marisia - Maros Megyei Múzeum Évkönyve 29/2. (2009)
Cultură spirituală
342 Marisia XXIX Besides the family solidarity in the funeral, the social and religious solidarity in funeral custom is important too. There are many folk rites that made solidarity between the livings and the deceases. The meal at the end of the funeral ceremony, named in Romanian "comändare" or "pomeana" are the role to link the livings with de dead. The lamentations from Beica Valley, for example, mention the other deceased relatives who waiting the dead to integrate in the other world. Self-murderers were missed by the solidarity of the community; they were lead to the grave by the members of the family and not by the whole village community. The folk funeral customs want to pass the death crisis by integration the dead in the other world and to protect the survivors. For the protection of the survivors there are a lot of rites who aim to make the survivor to forget the dead: they throw money and dust in the grave after they rub their hand with it, they look from a bolter to forget the deceased and so on. It is very interesting to follow the role of the family members and the others relatives in the burial ceremony. The first role in the funeral is the members of the family but the neighbours also participate on the organization of the ceremony. Important roles in the funeral are the spiritual kinship: the godparents. The godmother receive some award at the burial like is the funeral tree or a weaving carpet, a pot or a ritual bread and so on. In some villages, near Tärgu Mures, there is a special religious ritual for the godmother, the ritual of "the unbinding of the godmother", that take place at the grave. The concept of the kinship is important in the grouping of the graves in the cemeteries. In many villages from Mures County, at all nations and religious, the graves are arranged in the cemeteries by the concept of large family: Rästolita (1900-1980), Vätava (1900-1980), Ibane§ti (1900-1980), Band (1900-1980), Luieriu (1900-1980), Sänmihaiu de Cámpie (1900-1980), Valea Largä (1900 - 1980), Cäpu§u de Cámpie (1900-1980), Vaideiu (1900-1980), Bolintineni, Adämu§, Mihai Viteazu. There are some villages in the Mures County where the deceases are engraved in the household, in the yard or in the garden: Idicel Pädure, Luieriu, IbäneSti, MoiSa, Band, CäpuSu de Cámpie, Valea Largä, Stänceni and Chendu. In some areas like Tárnává Plateau, the role of the neigbourhood and the village community is visible in some aspects referring to the aids for the family on the funeral consisting in: money, food, drinks, or others. It is very interesting, besides the concept of kinship, the concept of the stranger that operate here. Who is the stranger in the rural world? The stranger could be
