Fraternity-Testvériség, 2011 (89. évfolyam, 1. szám)
2011-01-01 / 1. szám
Fraternity! Testvériség 25 Tips for a Successful 50-Year Marriage Director Joe Fabri and his wife, Peggy, Branch Manager of 151 1. Include the Lord as the third person in your marriage. Seek Him daily in your lives through Bible reading and prayer. 2. Spend as much time as possible with your children and grandchildren to maintain closeness and foster family love. 3. Eat dinner together as a family as often as possible. T. Periodically, recommit your lives to one another either formally or informally with your children in attendance. 5. Make time for one another each day. 6. Always be willing to say you’re sorry and mean it. Apologizing is more important than the incident and will be remembered far longer. 7. Never make a major decision without your mate’s input. Your spouse should be listened to and an agreement that both are comfortable with should result. 8. Respect one another. 9. Maintain a sense of humor. 10. Say “Thank You” for little things as well as big things. One should never feel taken for granted. 11. Praise your mate’s good qualities to others but always within earshot of the one being complimented. 12. Never discuss important decisions when you’re angry. If the disagreement has reached the point of shouting or angry words, set a time to reopen the topic or table the discussion. Don’t win a battle only to lose a war. 13. Bake Hungarian food together, particularly pastries at holiday time. We make stuffed cabbage and chicken paprikas often to keep our Hungarian traditions alive. IT. Find an activity both of you can regularly share and enjoy. 15. Think before you speak. 16. Never go to bed angry. 17. Enjoy a hobby that is separate from that of your mate. Maintain separate interests so you don’t have to rely solely on your mate to entertain you. 18. Each day, remind your spouse that you love him/her. 19. Don’t discuss personal or family problems with others. 20. If you must spend a day or two apart from each other, you will find that it is healthy for your relationship. It will cause you to appreciate each other and see one another with renewed interest. 21. Don’t try to change your spouse into someone you hope he/she will become. It won’t work. 22. Don’t correct your spouse in front of others. The details of a story aren't important. 23. Don’t interrupt your spouse in front of others. 2T. Openly discuss with one another how your money should be spent or saved. 25. Make HRFA an integral part of your life, whether it be on insurance matters or branch activities. It has brought us closer together and has strengthened our fondness for our Hungarian culture and heritage. 15
