Hungarian Church Press, 1968 (20. évfolyam, 2. szám)

1968-06-01 / 2. szám

KCP Vo] XX Special Numbsr 1963 No 2

82 -(07786)

cularly exposed,, that is., the sector of the oc~ called "oommutera", workers employed outside their home villages or towns«

Theological ar.d cultural differanoes hardly figure as causes of divorces far people with serious ideological or cultural diff orences between them seldom marry? Sut there are such cases also and then problems arise concerning the education of children.. Tact, love etil the harmony of the functions of tfce marriage arc needed to overcome the difficulty^ Ideological differences and prejudices can also lead to the alienation or even to the mutual hatred of the married partner.to Cultural differences also cause some problems« Statistics show that the wife with a higher education is usually patient and tends — often with suocess — to stimulate her husband to educate himself« On the other hand, a husband less educated than his wife often gives vent to his sense of inferiority by rude and inpatient behaviour, Kis hurt pride might lead him to actions which jeopardize their married happiness* Many marriages are strengtionod by the joint endeavour of the partners to make studies, thus mutually helping ens another to attain to a higher level of cultural life» Their common profession, too, may have this cementing influence a

The problem of housing is closely related to the high divorce rate.,, In more than half of the divorce cases, problems concerning housing figure as primary or corollary causes* A secure hone with its atmosphere of intimacy, peace, rest, in which the husband and wife make their plans and see the realization of their projects, the: place which is the nest cf the young - tends to stabilize marriages. All the mere serious are the troubles caused by inconvenient housing; this may make the married partners seek escape, fint together, then separatelyr. In the case of the so-called "joint rentals" the child to b<| born into tills world is an unde sired alien * Parents often share their house with the young couple_ but experience shows that this, with its opportunities of interference, is a highly unsatisfactory solution, It is very difficult to keep the hone—characier of a homefx.s shared with others»

The problem of housing is a world problem which is especially accentuated in the case of modern marriages which imperatively call fer separate hemeso

Urbanisation may also have an adverse effect on marriage» Cities and toms are mors attractive tlrn rural caranunitiesc Cities offer more comfort ard. cultural advantages, and this is to be welcomed. But city life also has its special temptations, mainly for those who are as yet unable to avail themselves cf the opportunities which city life offers« So city life tends to depersonalize people« Then a person lifted from his village community might become a "loner" in the city environment0 He is no longer under the normativo influence end control cf the family, kinship, church8 Then there is a wide variety cf' now contacts available but these tend to be superficial« As long as the married partners make their joint venture of becoming acquainted with urban life their union ife safe, but when werk, entertainment, study, social obligations separate them and they, as separate individuals, make new contacts, their wedded union is likely to suffer«